Selling Sunset star Mary Fitzgerald has spoken about suffering a miscarriage while filming the Netflix reality show, opening up about her deeply personal and emotional journey from her egg freezing to her miscarriage and the challenges she and her supportive husband, Romain Bonnet, are facing as they are still trying to navigate the road to having a child.
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In the season premiere, the 43-year-old is seen excitedly sharing the news with her closest friend and fellow co-stars that she is expecting her second child, 27 years after her first.
Best friend Amanza goes on to share her opinion on the news, pointing out Fitzgerland’s first pregnancy at the age of 16. “I’m excited for her to experience it the way she deserves to. She was a baby when she had Austin. She’s traumatized from that experience.” And later he goes on to say, “It’s going to be so good this time. It’s going to show her and help her believe she’s an amazing mom.”
A few episodes later, Fitzgerald reveals she lost the baby after going to an ultrasound to check on the heartbeat. She was telling her best friend and co-star Amanza Smith “She started doing the ultrasound and I’ve seen that look before.”
“I already started getting that sinking feeling. I feel just numb right now. I go from crying to just numb.” With Bonnet there, he expresses how he just wants to be there for Fitzgerlad.
Fitzgerald shared the news with her followers in a tearful video on Instagram in March. She went on to clarify that she had a septic miscarriage and required surgery. According to the Mayo Clinic, a septic miscarriage requires surgery.
She told her the following: “I guess the only reason why I’ve been silent for a long time – and the reason why I’m speaking about it now – is because I do realize how common this is and how many people go through it.”
According to the Mayo Clinic, a septic miscarriage occurs when an infection develops in the uterus after a miscarriage occurs. Symptoms can include and vary from a fever to chills and lower abdominal tenderness.
Fizgergarld has bravely publicly spoken about her experience and tells TODAY.com that losing the child didn’t cross her mind amid the excitement of the pregnancy.
“I honestly didn’t consider that I could lose the baby. I was just so excited and so focused on this new future, even though, realistically, I always knew that there was a chance. I just never let my mind go there. I was just optimistic about it.”
“I don’t know what the normal timeframe is to get over something like this and I just keep moving forward and trying to put a smile on my face and act like everything’s OK, but it doesn’t feel OK,” she says in a confessional during the show.
After her miscarriage, Mary understandably took some time away from real estate and filming to grieve in peace with her husband, Romain. This is why she doesn’t play a huge role in season 7 and is detached from all the dramas. It shows that you should respect your boundaries and feelings during such times and if you need a break from everything and everyone, you should give yourself that kindness.
It was a good decision for Mary to take on the role of manager of The Oppenheim Group from the previous season, where her main role seemed to be mediating through the office dramas. This was unnecessary stress and would have been too much to handle during this season, especially when that was not what her role was for.
“When I got pregnant, I just decided that it wasn’t worth it. These ladies are adults. They’re grown; they can handle their own issues or arguments,” she said, “but for the sake of my health the baby’s health and my family, I decided to focus on my own clients because it took a lot of time away from me focusing on my own career.”
An estimated one in four pregnancies ends in a miscarriage but that isn’t keeping Fitzgerlad and her loving husband Romain from trying. She went on to say, “We won’t be giving up, and if this message speaks to you in any way or you are feeling down, helpless, or alone, please know we are in this together. Hang in there.”
During the reunion, there wasn’t much discussion on the topic. Mary and Romain said they are working through everything together, and while they lost a baby, they gained a baby puppy. They are still planning on expanding their family and may even continue to share the process in future seasons of ‘Selling Sunset’.
Mary Fitzgerald’s journey in “Selling Sunset unveiled a deeply personal chapter marked by hope, excitement, and heartache. Her willingness to open up about her miscarriage during filming shed light on the emotional rollercoaster many face on the path to parenthood. The initial joy of expecting a child, shared with eager anticipation among friends, swiftly turned into a moment of profound loss during an ultrasound visit.
Mary’s raw honesty on social media, bravely revealing the septic miscarriage and the subsequent surgery, brought attention to the common yet often overlooked reality of pregnancy loss, reassuring other women that they are not alone.
Her resilience and honesty amid grief share the importance of acknowledging and processing such painful experiences. Mary’s decision to step back from the spotlight, prioritizing her emotional well-being and family life, while still being able to show up to holidays, celebrations, and the reunion dressed up in her beautiful bodycon dresses was an inspiration.
Her absence from the dramatic dynamics of the show and shift in professional focus highlights the significance of self-care and having others honor boundaries. Mary’s choice to focus on her and ensure her husband, Romain, had the same support showcased a profound understanding of what truly matters during challenging times.
If you’re looking for support or more information about stillbirths, miscarriage or anything regarding pregnancy, Tommy’s has a free helpline for those in the UK at 0800 0147 800 (open 9 -5, Monday–Friday) or you can contact them via email at firstname.lastname@example.org. For those in the US, you can reach the RESOLVE Helpline at Call 866.NOT.ALONE (866.668.2566).