5 Breastfeeding Myths Every Expecting Mother Should Know Before Choosing NOT to Breastfeed

When I got pregnant with my first son, I remember getting all the pamphlets that outlined decisions I needed to make while preparing for his arrival. One of those pamphlets was all about feeding options, something I hadn’t even thought of yet. At the time, I was living with my aunt and she looked it over and said, ‘Well, the best thing to do is just breastfeed.’

In my head, I must have already been hooked on bottle feeding. I mean, that’s what I was used to seeing on television, in ads, EVERYWHERE… To me, it seemed the only way to go because it appeared to be the norm.

After a few more doctor visits and more research (and we ALL know how much research us mom-to-be’s are doing!) I started to realize that my aunt seemed to be right…if you’re able, “Breast is best.”

Long story short, I DID choose to breastfeed and I advocate for it all the time, especially in my community of women of color, where breastfeeding is not as normalized. Thankfully, breastfeeding is becoming more common in black families, thanks to increased awareness and support.

I wanted to do my part and debunk some breastfeeding myths that I believe every expecting mother should know before choosing not to breastfeed!

Myth #1 You Won’t Be Able to Go Out with Baby.

Totally not true.

Honestly, for me, going out and about was easier as a breastfeeding mom. No bottles, no measuring, just whipping out the boobie when he was hungry.

Some moms I interact with are worried that they’ll have to hide away while breastfeeding.

This is not true!

Depending on your comfort level, you can breastfeed almost anywhere, with or without a breastfeeding cover. I loved my Boba wrap in my latest breastfeeding journey with my now 2-year-old. It allowed me to wear him and to discreetly breastfeed when needed.

Breastfeeding Myth #1

These Are All The States Where It’s Legal To Breastfeed In Public

Myth #2 You Won’t Be Able to Go Out WithOUT Baby

Also, totally not true.

You can go out without baby. Planning will be key and I think pumping was a great thing for me in my breastfeeding journey, too, because I had milk for when I was away.

Don’t be afraid of pumping too little at first, either. With my first son, I noticed I had a huge supply of milk and with each child after, it got a little more difficult to pump. I think it was because I had more stress with each child and that impacted my supply.

I was able to combat this with major hydration and limiting my sugar and caffeine intake.

I pumped regularly and stored milk in the freezer. This will be key if journeying far (or near) from baby! It’s best to start pumping early in your breastfeeding journey to get into the habit of pumping and building a stash, especially if you plan to work outside the home.

I work from home so that was never an issue BUT I also like to go out and about to run errands and just enjoy some ME TIME so I definitely used my stash frequently.

If you’re interested in working from home you should see if you have what it takes here!

Myth #3 Breastfeeding Hurts

I’m not here to sugar coat anything so I’ll be straight up. It can get a little sore at first but it’s not excruciatingly painful.

And, I promise, it won’t be worse than the pain of actually BIRTHING the baby.

Don’t let this fear of pain deter you.

Prepare ahead of time by asking your prenatal care professional for a referral to their lactation consultant. She can help you learn latching and position techniques so you’re ready when baby arrives! Add some Lasinoh Lanolin Cream and Cooling Pads to your hospital bag and you’ll be out that very short-lived phase very quickly.

Breastfeeding Myths De-Bunked


Myth #4 You Can’t Have an Alcoholic Drink with Your Girls

I might catch hell for this but, you most certainly can have a drink. American Academy of Pediatrics says “ingestion of alcoholic beverages should be minimized and limited to an occasional intake…approximately 2 oz liquor, 8 oz wine, or 2 beers. Nursing should take place 2 hours or longer after the alcohol intake to minimize its concentration in the ingested milk.”

Breastfeeding Myth #4

If you plan ahead, you most certainly can enjoy the occasional happy hour with friends!

Give baby the best feeding ever and head out the door. Try to return before the baby’s next feeding or leave a bottle of breast milk, just in case.

Myth #4 My Boobs Are Gonna Sag

This will depend on you but I’m gonna say it’s a myth because breastfeeding doesn’t CAUSE sagginess in your breast.

Implementing a few simple breastfeeding strategies will help you avoid the grief of your nipple touching your belly button.

Avoid that situation by purchasing a good and sturdy nursing bra and after breastfeeding wear supportive bras.

I loved my Boppy when I breastfed and that helped me with better positioning. It’s natural to lean into the baby but dangling your boob will cause stretch. Stretch equals sag.

I loved this post from the Mommy Edition on How To Keep Breasts From Sagging After Breastfeeding!

These were the reasons that I heard among friends and family members who passed up the opportunity to have the most intimate bonding experience with their little ones. If you’re deciding if breastfeeding is for you or not…I’m sure at least ONE of these myths have crossed your mind.

I hope that I’ve given you four more reasons why you should choose to breastfeed.

Moms-to-be…do you have any other breastfeeding myths you’d like debunked? Post it in the comments and I’m glad to offer some first-hand insight!

Breastfeeding moms…have you heard a breastfeeding myth that you can debunk here in the comments?



Guest Post by Kanani of totallymommedit.com
Kanani from totallymommedit.com is a mom of four very energetic kids. Her day revolves around balancing a work at home job, managing a business with her husband, AND a blog meant to inspire moms throughout their parenting journey and to not be afraid to set and achieve personal and professional goals! When she’s not super mommin’ , She loves to sip a margarita, and binge watch the Twilight or Harry Potter movies!
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22 thoughts on “5 Breastfeeding Myths Every Expecting Mother Should Know Before Choosing NOT to Breastfeed

  1. I hate hearing people say it hurts. I know everyone has differing levels of sensitivity but it should never be described as hurt maybe uncomfortable. The “hurting” always discourages a lot of women.

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  3. With my first child-the first two weeks hurt. With my second it was only the first week. I am 2 month done with nursing. I miss it, but I am also glad for it to be over. You included very great questions that myself and many others have had at one point during our nursing journey. Thank you.

    1. Thank you for reading! Breastfeeding is quite a job! I nursed both of my girls. And it would’ve been great to have learned more about it before giving birth.

  4. I was really fortunate to have a good nurse school me on how to get my baby to latch after I gave birth. He latched almost immediately, and at first it was uncomfortable, but we have found out flow and our feeding time is our bonding time.

    When I head out for whatever reason, and come home to find him on the bottle, it always breaks. Y heart a little, but he prefers the breast 😊 I encourage all mommys to be to breastfeed and pump their milk for as they can! Not all mommys have their breast milk come in, or their babies latch, so it really is a privledge to be able to breastfeed.

    If you’re struggling, don’t give up. You will find your flow.

    1. Good for you. That’s so awesome. You are so right. It really is a privilege!

  5. Breast is best 😊 I have three and breastfed my first for four months, second for two weeks (reflux) and my third for fifteen months. It’s definitely something you have to set your mind to do and it’s great if you have support.

    1. Yes, having support helps a lot! Thanks for reading. 🙂

  6. This is a great read for new mothers expecting! Obviously, this doesn’t affect me. However, my ex wife breastfed – we had the occasional drink etc, and our child turned out just fine 🙂

  7. Nicole

    I breastfed my 3 children for a total of just over 10 years. I was either pregnant or breastfeeding or both for about 13 years. I breastfed my first after 3 days (I was in a coma, yes a real coma) and the nurse helped my son latch because he was used to the bottle. I breastfed my daughter while I was pregnant with the 3rd one then she decided she didn’t like apple juice (colostrum) so when baby finally came I breastfed both. The last one knew I was pregnant again when he was a bit over 4 y.o. and decided to keep the rest of the milk for the baby (!); he closed my blouse and that was it. I had one infection for each time because the nurses would keep up a schedule of every 4 hours then returning home I would let them sleep for 12 – they all did the same thing: they were up all day and slept a full night of 12 hours. The myths you described were not deterrent for us, we didn’t even think we couldn’t go out or always bring them over. No bottles are needed not even for water because the breast knows what the baby needs: cream, milk or water, newborn or toddler, the breast knows it all.

    1. Omg! This is an amazing story! WOW. Thank you so much for sharing. Best of wishes to you. ❤️

  8. A breastfeeding myth I heard: You have to quit when they get teeth because it’ll hurt. Actually, babies don’t use their teeth at all when they breastfeed. I just weaned my second child a few weeks shy of her 2nd birthday, and yes, she had teeth!

    1. I breastfed my first daughter for over 2 years and I never had a problem with her biting me. So I totally agree with you! Thanks for mentioning that.

  9. I’ve had three kids and very different experiences with each….at the end of the day, I think that each Mother has to do what’s best for them and their family. Thanks for sharing your experience.

  10. Love this post! With my first I tried for 6 weeks. She would not latch, it was the most frustrating, tear worthy time. In the end the Dr. told me that bottle was the only way this was going to go. I pumped for 2 months and then dried up. When I had my son, well, I hadn’t breast fed my daughter and loved the bottle, so well, I went with bottle, formula only with him. My last was born almost 5 years after my first. I decided to try again, she latched on the moment they laid her on my chest. I went out, I went out and fed her in public, I pumped and stored, I pumped and dumped. The greatest experience I have ever had!

    1. That’s amazing! Thank you for sharing your story! 🙂

  11. Shell

    These are such wonderful tips for new mamas to be…. I wish someone had shared this with me back when I had my first son.

    1. Thank you so much for reading. 😊

  12. you nailed this! you are so correct with all the myths!

  13. Great share! The “hurting” thing is such a double edged sword as Moms should be prepared but also this can sound scary. I like to remind moms that there’s a vast difference in PAIN and DISCOMFORT. DISCOMFORT is normal as you and baby learn to nurse. PAIN is a sign you need some support.

    1. Thank you so much for sharing that point. I totally agree! I’ve experienced both discomfort and actual pain as a breastfeeding Mom. So it is important to note that you may indeed experience some pain while breastfeeding but it is a sign that something is not quite right. A few adjustments and some cream could ease the discomfort. However, actual pain may be something worth mentioning to your physician. Thank you for reading. 🙂

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